Knowing how afraid of spiders I am, Small Thing always informs me when I come into the house that she has hidden all her (toy) spiders. Then she shows me where they are - in the bedroom of her doll's house.
The other day she pulled out this rather gruesome specimen she owns: it's huge, all black and fuzzy with little glittering red eyes. She told me it was a Halloween spider.
"And, well, how would you feel if you came to my house for a Halloween party and this was hanging from the ceiling?"
"You know how I'd feel! I'd be very scared."
"Okay. Well, if you came to my house for a Halloween party I'd hide it away."
A pause. And then in a quieter voice, "But it would still be in my house."